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Leila Freeman's avatar

I love this post Amber. You are an inspiration to get out of life all the joy we deserve. You write beautifully; your words bring comfort and reassurance :)

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Amber Horrox's avatar

Thank you so much for your thoughtful words and kind feedback 🥰😘

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Sheila's avatar

Oh wow this is brilliant! It’s interesting what the question who am I brings up. It’s true those first interpretations are actually what am I! 💚

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Amber Horrox's avatar

Isn’t it? And this is how we’ve been primed - to talk about what instead of who. Now when I’m asked the question “what do you do?” I’m so far removed from what we’ve come to see this mean, I’ve been stumped to answer it now.

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Sheila's avatar

That’s it! One subtle difference in Spanish is permanent and temporary verb to be. We have I am but they have soy and estoy. But interesting although our emotions use the temporary state, your job uses permanent. I wasn’t happy that clumsy is permanent either as I’d always hoped I’d get better from it haha, but I think at 36 I can start just accepting it as a permanent state 🤣

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Amber Horrox's avatar

I’ve come to realise that I’m “clumsy” at certain times of my menstrual cycle. So whereas it’s easy to label, it’s more likely a result of being less cognitively able during my most challenged time healthwise. (Something I am sure is only the case because of the way we’ve overridden menstruation and made it an inconvenience, something to hide and power on right through)

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Sheila's avatar

Yeah, I’ve more clumsy parts of the month. I’m also more clumsy when I’m experiencing stress or tired. But there are days where I’m just clumsy, and that’s it, no reason. I’m trying to be more mindful in my movements but sometimes I get caught out 🩼🩼 😆

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Julia Bruno's avatar

I know the weight of those high expectations too and the weight of carrying the invisibility of chronic illness. You are so amazing Amber, such an inspiration to anyone lucky enough to find your wise heart felt well worn words, I can feel you in each and every one of them❤

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Amber Horrox's avatar

Thank you🙏🥰😘

I’m glad I thought to mention this page to you 😍

Xx

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Amber Horrox's avatar

Thank you🥰😘

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