Why I finally call myself a coach, mentor & cheerleader
And why that could change everything for you.
Part 2 linked to what happens when you bring support in. Thank you for witnessing me in this part of my journey.
I’ve resisted calling myself a coach or mentor for years — even though I’ve spent countless hours guiding others through chronic illness, transformation and healing.
Why? Because these labels often don’t capture the depth of what this work really is.
Coaching is transactional.
Mentoring is relational.
But healing? Healing is neither linear nor measurable. It’s messy, cyclical, sacred.
It’s misunderstood. And often, it’s invisible.
Coaching is usually goal-oriented and time-bound. Results can be tracked.
But those of us walking a healing path know: healing doesn’t happen in linear time. It doesn’t always come with metrics or milestones. It’s cyclical, layered, and deeply personal. And, often, it’s misunderstood, and unsupported.
In the beginning, it felt like the people who were supposed to be on my side were the very ones throwing boulders from the top.
I kept climbing. Alone.
Three years in, something hit me hard:
No one was celebrating me.
No one was asking how I was healing.
No one was cheering.
So I learned to cheer myself on.
And now, I do the same for you.
In many indigenous, spiritual, and healing traditions, mentorship was (and still is) the most sacred form of learning — passed down through apprenticeship, storytelling, and presence.
Before money ruled the world, healing and mentorship lived in a sacred circle of reciprocity and reverence.
But when I first started working — in the old world of endless output and no recognition — that circle had long been broken.
What changed?
The rise of currency, urbanisation, and individualism broke that circle.
Transaction replaced trust.
In my “before” life, I mentored my team from a place of over-giving and self-sacrifice.
I worked countless extra hours each week to ensure the needs of the business — and the people in it — were met.
The energy I gave and the value I brought were drastically overlooked.
And my own needs? Unmet. Unseen.
There was no reciprocity.
The cycle of giving and receiving had collapsed.
The outcome?
My health suffered — immensely. I paid the price.
The business moved on.
I was replaced.
And eventually, I watched as the very branch I had poured myself into burned to the ground.
In the ashes of what had once been my life, I had to learn how to identify my needs — and prioritise what truly mattered.
For this, I was told I was selfish.
When I trained as a yoga teacher and bodywork massage therapist, I was told I wasn’t “spiritual enough” to train. And later, when I began offering my services, I was told they should be free.
My work was seen as transactional. But I was expected to give, not receive.
Recently, I realised something that landed deep:
I am naturally ordered.
I simply live in a world that tells me I’m dis-ordered.
And for a long time, I believed it.
I built my belief system on never enough, not good enough, do more.
It was a perfect fit for capitalist machinery.
But it left me depleted, unfree, and unwell.
There are two ways of being.
One is extractive, unsustainable, and soul-fracturing.
The other gifts us a future. It offers hope.
It delivers transformation.
In ancestral times, energy didn’t move in transactions.
It moved in cycles of giving, receiving, honouring, and returning.
In this lifetime, I was only taught to give, and not to receive.
Unlearning that has been one of my deepest, most painful, and most privileged lessons.
Now, I stand at a crossroads.
One foot rooted in the ancient sacred lineage of healing and mentoring —
the other grounded in the modern necessity of being energetically and financially resourced.
This is why my offering — one powerful, paid, transformational session — is a sacred hybrid:
A soul-offering, not a sales pitch.
A modern-day reciprocity ritual.
A portal, where your wisdom is witnessed, and mine is honoured.
Your Invitation: The First Step Through the Portal
I’m opening a set number of 90-minute transformational sessions for first-time clients — a sacred space of deep support, insight, and renewal.
For the month of July, 3 spaces will be available.
🌀 £99 (special launch price)
🌀 One session. Life-shifting clarity.
🌀 For those at a threshold moment — where your soul is whispering: it’s time.
Ready?
DM me “PORTAL” or comment “PORTAL” below.
I’ll guide you from there.
Come as you are. This space is ready for you.
Not feeling a full body yes?
As well as being known as your go-to person for inspiring you to take action that is in alignment with what you want, and for empowering you to become your own leader, it is also important that my services are associated with accessibility.
This is, in part, why I have already written a book for you.
Described as a transformational memoir of a year in remission, it comes with a 3 part journal so that you can work at your own pace and receive guidance at the same time.
It is through apprenticeship, story telling and presence that I believe the greatest of all healing and transformation happens.
Still unsure?
See what some of the readers so far have to say about it. You can access all 11 5* reviews here.
Bringing all you've learnt to the table Amber is going to be a powerful ally for anyone who's had to go it alone. That lived experience is a precious gift. 🎁
Beautifully and powerfully stated ☀️