I’ve just followed you because this - every word of it - resonates so powerfully with me. In the last seven years I’ve gone through traumatic job loss, breakdown, major surgery, huge relationship adjustments with partner and children, growing awareness that I’m neurodivergent, lockdown, being unable to meet my grand-daughter until she was several months old because she was born abroad in lockdown, breast cancer treatment and getting COVID while I was on chemo, and now perhaps unsurprisingly chronic fatigue. I’ve also had a year of therapy revealing a mass of childhood trauma. It’s still complicated and raw and I don’t feel quite ready to talk about it. I’ve been silent for so long. I am married to a university professor who loves me dearly but treats every discussion involving feelings and intuitative knowledge as a viva for a PhD (I failed). Last night we had one such discussion and when I looked at my Polar monitor I discovered my HR had been consistently well over 100 for an hour and a half - and I hadn’t moved from the sofa. So yeah, there is a lot there, but I’m beginning to reach out and find people who understand. FWIW, I’m also 66 and on Letrozole so my body doesn’t produce oestrogen any more. Anyway, I’ll dip a toe in and when I feel ready I’ll start blogging here. Thanks for opening a door and letting light and hope in.
Trauma and the body holding emotions is something I’m storing. If I’m in distress, for whatever reasons, my pain levels are always higher. Always. The effects of a stressful month don’t always show immediately either, it can take three months for it to show in my cycle.
I think emotional links (but not blame) is the next revelation in wellness. We’ve known for a long time emotions have links to physical symptoms, but it’s been used as a form of blame and not as a signal or signpost in the direction of wellness.
Work like yours is the forefront of this change. I love this nitty gritty let’s get healing stuff ❤️🩹
Yey thanks for much for your feedback, reflections and revelations !! I’ve been desperate to turn these interviews into posts for 5/6 years !!!! It just hasn’t happened til now but this is the kind of research I’ve been doing in the background and it’s been one hell of a journey to fathom out why the way i approached my health journey too me further than medically believed possible, enabled me to reduce conflict and why this has taken me so far (and not others who’ve potentially done the same in terms of action taken including the deep healing/holistic stuff).
Your insight into your body, physically and emotionally is incredible. That awareness of stress and its later impact in the body is interesting. It’s this side of it that has been another reason for my having bodywork therapy every month for the past 5 years and why I went on to train in it so that I could help others the way I was being helped.
That’s interesting that you say emotions have been blamed not used as a signpost in the direction of wellness. I’m finding lately that anywhere blame is concerned it’s because there is a need or a link or desire to control. Blame feels ingrained in our culture. For me, it’s been able taking back the reigns of creation - creating health. And taking responsibility for my emotional wellbeing. As deep and dark and difficult and misunderstood as that had been.
I know you’re an avid migraine summit attender and I look forward to what other nuggets of wisdom you’ve taken away from the years you’ve been attending. I love that you’ve put healthy boundaries in to only attend ones you know you’ll like. It’s like me reading stuff on the internet, it’s so easy to get drawn into stuff that makes us vexed, I try to be like no! Don’t get dragged down that route, go the happy route and feel how it feels different in your nervous system.
I knew when I got sick I had to sort out all the emotional baggage I’d be farting around for years. I’ve been in therapy ever since. But I have to say your body work really did release clarity, I think it’s the biggest thing body work has given me.
Where there’s blame there’s a desire to control - yes. I think you have nailed it. Taking back responsibility has been big for me too, albeit I knew early on the doctors weren’t going to help and found a wellness journey off the back of the word endometriosis. Later on I did have to go back to them and work on that friggin baggage! So much emotional work yet to do!
I absolutely love this piece. I feel like it’s a slightly different style than usually but I love it too! I love the variety of angles you approach healing from migraines.
Depending on which study, age group and what country you read about, between 70-80+% of people are not consuming enough magnesium. One contributor is the way in which we farm the same crops in the same soil. It’s depleting the soil of the nutrients and therefore the plants which we’re consuming. Permaculture farming (aka how our grandparents or ancestors farmed) is a way of farming which is addressing this, if you’re looking for more nutrient dense foods.
I used the word consume, which isn’t quite accurate, we can indeed intake magnesium through the skin and it’s a particularly good way to take it if there are gut absorption issues.
BIG magnesium lover and geek. There are several times of supplements, if that’s how you chose to consume it, so I recommend speaking with a nutritionist or dietitian before taking any. Ask for good brands in your area. Magnesium sprays are great for those with muscle pain, hello endo/muscle fatigue.
Anyway I’ve just dumped magnesium knowledge here, not really answering any of your questions. I think most people reading this could look at their magnesium intake 🤗😊
I’ve had to approach healing from a variety of different angles - I feel because it’s in the main, (along with all chronic illness) so complex. The complex needn’t be complicated (or misunderstood to the extent it is) but when dealing with something so complex, the answers are as simple as they are complex. For me, getting my head around that In the early stages was a giant leap forward in my health journey.
Yes, yes and yes! In the endometriosis community there’s a big message of this has to be tackled from many different angles.
I agree, as much as it’s complex it’s simple, stripping it back and listening. The body is telling us what it needs if we just take a minute to hear it.
Arrrrrgh I’m so glad this resonates in such a deep and powerful way🌝💡🌀
Goodness, that is ALOT. I am so glad to hear you recognise this too and found your way to therapy. You might have also seen my next blog to this on chronic fatigue?
I can relate to the revelation childhood trauma…I’ve been having monthly bodywork for years and during the early years there was trauma i had blocked out, forgotten about or didn’t think would affect me as an adult. It was a big shock! And then I went into ancestral trauma too🙃
So happy to hear you are able to reach out to others and find people who understand.
Welcome to the warrior within community here. I’m so grateful for the connect and to become better acquainted with you🙏 it’s made my day that you feel a door has been opened to light and hope🥰
I’ve just followed you because this - every word of it - resonates so powerfully with me. In the last seven years I’ve gone through traumatic job loss, breakdown, major surgery, huge relationship adjustments with partner and children, growing awareness that I’m neurodivergent, lockdown, being unable to meet my grand-daughter until she was several months old because she was born abroad in lockdown, breast cancer treatment and getting COVID while I was on chemo, and now perhaps unsurprisingly chronic fatigue. I’ve also had a year of therapy revealing a mass of childhood trauma. It’s still complicated and raw and I don’t feel quite ready to talk about it. I’ve been silent for so long. I am married to a university professor who loves me dearly but treats every discussion involving feelings and intuitative knowledge as a viva for a PhD (I failed). Last night we had one such discussion and when I looked at my Polar monitor I discovered my HR had been consistently well over 100 for an hour and a half - and I hadn’t moved from the sofa. So yeah, there is a lot there, but I’m beginning to reach out and find people who understand. FWIW, I’m also 66 and on Letrozole so my body doesn’t produce oestrogen any more. Anyway, I’ll dip a toe in and when I feel ready I’ll start blogging here. Thanks for opening a door and letting light and hope in.
Trauma and the body holding emotions is something I’m storing. If I’m in distress, for whatever reasons, my pain levels are always higher. Always. The effects of a stressful month don’t always show immediately either, it can take three months for it to show in my cycle.
I think emotional links (but not blame) is the next revelation in wellness. We’ve known for a long time emotions have links to physical symptoms, but it’s been used as a form of blame and not as a signal or signpost in the direction of wellness.
Work like yours is the forefront of this change. I love this nitty gritty let’s get healing stuff ❤️🩹
Yey thanks for much for your feedback, reflections and revelations !! I’ve been desperate to turn these interviews into posts for 5/6 years !!!! It just hasn’t happened til now but this is the kind of research I’ve been doing in the background and it’s been one hell of a journey to fathom out why the way i approached my health journey too me further than medically believed possible, enabled me to reduce conflict and why this has taken me so far (and not others who’ve potentially done the same in terms of action taken including the deep healing/holistic stuff).
Your insight into your body, physically and emotionally is incredible. That awareness of stress and its later impact in the body is interesting. It’s this side of it that has been another reason for my having bodywork therapy every month for the past 5 years and why I went on to train in it so that I could help others the way I was being helped.
That’s interesting that you say emotions have been blamed not used as a signpost in the direction of wellness. I’m finding lately that anywhere blame is concerned it’s because there is a need or a link or desire to control. Blame feels ingrained in our culture. For me, it’s been able taking back the reigns of creation - creating health. And taking responsibility for my emotional wellbeing. As deep and dark and difficult and misunderstood as that had been.
I know you’re an avid migraine summit attender and I look forward to what other nuggets of wisdom you’ve taken away from the years you’ve been attending. I love that you’ve put healthy boundaries in to only attend ones you know you’ll like. It’s like me reading stuff on the internet, it’s so easy to get drawn into stuff that makes us vexed, I try to be like no! Don’t get dragged down that route, go the happy route and feel how it feels different in your nervous system.
I knew when I got sick I had to sort out all the emotional baggage I’d be farting around for years. I’ve been in therapy ever since. But I have to say your body work really did release clarity, I think it’s the biggest thing body work has given me.
Where there’s blame there’s a desire to control - yes. I think you have nailed it. Taking back responsibility has been big for me too, albeit I knew early on the doctors weren’t going to help and found a wellness journey off the back of the word endometriosis. Later on I did have to go back to them and work on that friggin baggage! So much emotional work yet to do!
I absolutely love this piece. I feel like it’s a slightly different style than usually but I love it too! I love the variety of angles you approach healing from migraines.
Depending on which study, age group and what country you read about, between 70-80+% of people are not consuming enough magnesium. One contributor is the way in which we farm the same crops in the same soil. It’s depleting the soil of the nutrients and therefore the plants which we’re consuming. Permaculture farming (aka how our grandparents or ancestors farmed) is a way of farming which is addressing this, if you’re looking for more nutrient dense foods.
I used the word consume, which isn’t quite accurate, we can indeed intake magnesium through the skin and it’s a particularly good way to take it if there are gut absorption issues.
BIG magnesium lover and geek. There are several times of supplements, if that’s how you chose to consume it, so I recommend speaking with a nutritionist or dietitian before taking any. Ask for good brands in your area. Magnesium sprays are great for those with muscle pain, hello endo/muscle fatigue.
Anyway I’ve just dumped magnesium knowledge here, not really answering any of your questions. I think most people reading this could look at their magnesium intake 🤗😊
I’ve had to approach healing from a variety of different angles - I feel because it’s in the main, (along with all chronic illness) so complex. The complex needn’t be complicated (or misunderstood to the extent it is) but when dealing with something so complex, the answers are as simple as they are complex. For me, getting my head around that In the early stages was a giant leap forward in my health journey.
Yes, yes and yes! In the endometriosis community there’s a big message of this has to be tackled from many different angles.
I agree, as much as it’s complex it’s simple, stripping it back and listening. The body is telling us what it needs if we just take a minute to hear it.
Arrrrrgh I’m so glad this resonates in such a deep and powerful way🌝💡🌀
Goodness, that is ALOT. I am so glad to hear you recognise this too and found your way to therapy. You might have also seen my next blog to this on chronic fatigue?
I can relate to the revelation childhood trauma…I’ve been having monthly bodywork for years and during the early years there was trauma i had blocked out, forgotten about or didn’t think would affect me as an adult. It was a big shock! And then I went into ancestral trauma too🙃
So happy to hear you are able to reach out to others and find people who understand.
Welcome to the warrior within community here. I’m so grateful for the connect and to become better acquainted with you🙏 it’s made my day that you feel a door has been opened to light and hope🥰